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5 Feb 2016

Blogging mindsets to escape from


Blogging and crafting your own personal corner of the internet can be incredibly fun but, inevitably, it can come with dissatisfaction or struggles. My post today is written from
the heart, after I deeply identified with a comment I read on a site the other day. If you've ever experienced any of these, or find yourself completely in a rut, please know you are never alone!

. Fear of missing out on opportunities. The internet moves so fast and, with bloggers and businesses producing amazing things and collaborating right, left and centre, it can feel difficult to keep up. It can feel necessary to be glued to your screen, trying to hashtag and send emails, not wanting to be left behind. Instead of frantically checking your social media, turn everything off/on aeroplane mode and take a break. This can feel uncomfortable, like it's the last thing you should be doing, but have a greater confidence that cutting yourself off from this will help to free your blogging spirit bit by bit and stop dragging you down. It's the first step to being kinder to yourself, having faith in your work and cease depending on other people in order to pursue your blogging dreams. Instead of looking outwards, focus more on building your little corner and filling it with love and magic. Trust that opportunities that find you in the end will be the right ones and arrive perfectly on time!

. Fear of losing audience. I feel that this is a very common fear, no matter what you put out on the internet. So many artists change themselves in order to appeal to a new audience and often lose who they were in the process. Create and surround yourself with things that resonate with you. Be your own biggest fan and don't be afraid to compliment yourself when you've pulled something truly great out of the bag, that exudes your passion! Work to express yourself instead of trying to attract new followers and make that your manifesto. Even if your work holds a rare magic and beauty that only a few seem to love, pursue it. The readers you attract will be the ones more likely to stick around, get inspired and be worth forming friends with!

. Fear of producing low quality work. Everyone is on their own blogging journey, being inspired, learning to express ourselves in completely different ways. Building a perfect 'dream' blog in our minds can bring on the draining misconception that we're not good enough, we will never meet our idea of perfection. This can deter us from creating work, as we no longer have the confidence to share it. We lose out on our ability to experiment with blogging, to have fun and try out crazy new posts and series'. Push yourself further and further away from your 'dream blog', write what you want and see where it takes you! Wherever you are on your blogging journey, try our the idea that your work is always unfinished, there is always room to learn, grow and evolve your style!

. Fear of running out of ideas. The very fact that you're experiencing this fear indicates a desire to write and a belief that this is what you should be doing. For days of nonspiration, forcing down the laptop and getting out doing things you love can really help. You might find inspiration in the most unexpected place! Sometimes it comes down to convincing the world how beautiful something really is, or how it makes you feel: something that often gets overlooked. It also helps to find a 'niche' when blogging. For me, this stemmed from my love of antiques, romantic art (I am not made for the world of modern portraiture!) and from creating a 'Victorian Diary' journal when I was at school. I then just put it together with my love of aesthetics and nature. Customise your corner, create some magic and share what you love!

. Fear of losing all my ideas. Quite the opposite of the above, sometimes ideas suddenly come all at once - after all, there are no rules for when they should arrive! - and it can feel stressful trying to process and plan them all out at once. All of a sudden you're passionate about something - but trying to get on with another post. It helps me to note these down for a rainy day, but spend time focusing on the present moment, trusting that my other ideas will piece together at the right time. I might add to them bit by bit though, that's often how my posts form!

Writing this was therapeutic for me, as I'm always being hit by these while blogging! Behind every blog and brand is a human who feels all those negative emotions as well as the positive and I have belief that every person experiences these from time to time. I love how supportive the blogging community is as well, there are so many lovely people who are happy to help out and answer questions. It's all about transforming your struggles to something brilliant ♡ 
Have you ever been affected by any of these? If so, what helped you through them?

39 comments:

  1. I, like many others I reckon have been affected by a lot of them. Mostly the fear of missing out and loosing audience, but I realized lately that I don't really want all the opportunities brands offer to everyone. If I see a brand pop up on every other blog I am actually quite relieved that it won't be on my blog as well.

    Linda, Libra, Loca: Beauty, Baby and Backpacking

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    1. Thanks so much Linda! I think they are very common feelings and that is very true. Your blog is your sacred space, it is always your right to choose what to feature ♡

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  2. This is such a great post. I have been effected by a couple, but I definitely think people should read this, to realize that they don't need to worry about all these things. xx
    www.rosieauthorwriting.blogspot.com

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    1. Thanks so much Rosie! I'm really glad you liked it, I hope it is useful :D ♡

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  3. This is a very interesting, have a good day

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  4. I can definitely resonate with many of the points in this post. Particularly in relation to feeling like you're stuff isn't good enough compared to others, trying to make a picture perfect blog and always being looking at some type of screen or another. I think particularly when you're newer to blogger, like myself, the things feel more prevalent because we always want our things to be the best straight away. I think you just need to write what your love and the passion will attract the views and organically your blog will grow and evolve into that perfected picture you have - if not better :)

    Amy
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    1. Hi Amy, thanks so much! That's very true, we often want to skip the whole 'evolve, learn' part and be at our destination right away! That's great advice, thank you for sharing with me :D ♡

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  5. All of these are things which many bloggers worry about and I feel you've wrote about them perfectly
    Charlotte // charlottespicks.blogspot.com

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    1. Thanks so much Charlotte, that's so kind! :D ♡

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  6. What a deep and thoughtful post! I think most bloggers have struggled with one or the other of these. At some point, one must learn that blogging should primarily be fun and be an extension of one's personality. Comparing oneself to others only makes it difficult. After all, individuality is what makes different blogs so exciting :)

    Christina ♥ https://caliope-couture.com

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    1. Thanks so much Christina! I think they are very common feelings and that's a great way of putting it :D sooo true!! ♡

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  7. The fear of producing low quality posts or content is always there and it makes so paranoide sometimes, or bad with myself like maybe I'm not putting a 100% in it so it's really nice to have someone that understand!

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    1. Hi Paula! I'm in agreement, sometimes these fears never leave you, but it's so good you're continuing blogging and not letting them defeat you! I think so many people struggle with the same ones, and you've also made me feel less alone with your comment - thank you so much!! ♡

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  8. I'm affected most of writing something that will not be better than the one I wrote last. Scary! :(

    - Seyra x
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    1. Thanks so much for your comment Seyra! It is scary and sometimes we have good days and bad days with blogging, but as we evolve over time we get to know how to express ourselves better :D I love your blog and reading every post is so enjoyable! ♡

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  9. This post is on point. The same struggles I got. More likely this will occur when you gain audience and sponsors that sometimes influence you to please them rather than continue to the purpose of your blog.
    And this reminds me that I need to customise that corner or spot where I can work on my ideas that I have been holding back.

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    1. Hi Venus! That's really true, it can morph in to something that pleases other people rather than pleasing yourself. Aw that's great, you go for it! :D ♡

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  10. Loved this post so much! Glad I have found your blog x

    katielou99.blogspot.co.uk

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    1. Thanks so much Katie! I'm so glad you liked it! :D ♡

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  11. I loved reading this. Just knowing that other people have had these thoughts too helps! Sometimes it's just so frustrating when all you want to do is write, but don't know what to write about.
    But I've too come to the conclusion that a break is the best thing to do at that point :)
    Thanks for the lovely read<3 Hope you've had a good weekend!
    Emma xxx

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    1. Thanks so much Emma! I'm so glad you found it useful, hehe then we start stressing about stressing and that's when we need to put down the laptop xD I found taking a walk outside can bring it's own story, which often stems in to post ideas for me :D I'm very much inspired by the outdoors! ♡

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  12. great post!
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    1. Thanks so much Alice! Sounds great, I would love to! ♡

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  13. very on point! but i have the fear or producing a blogpost and no one responds or read them :/

    Mellie,
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    1. Thanks so much Melody! I think this is such a common fear while blogging, that our viewers won't connect to our post the way we do, but never change the things you want to write about! It makes your blog unique and different and as long as it pleases you, go on and hit publish! :D ♡

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  14. This is such a helpful post! I do feel all the above as well. Sometimes you need some time off, to stop worrying about making your blog more successful, and I think being original and true to who you are is the best thing, when blogging!

    Lovely post, thanks for sharing x

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    1. Thanks so much Rose! That's so true, great advice, it makes it so much more enjoyable! :D ♡

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  15. This was really interesting and comforting to read and understand that other people have these fears :) I definitely fear losing my audience especially when I'm ill and have to take a few days off or if I want to share something with my audience and I'm nervous about how they'll take it ! I find to help with fear of losing ideas I always keep my blogging notebook on me and jot down and schedule ideas as they come :)

    Lots of love, Marianne xxx

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  16. Great post, many bloggers have these thoughts or similar from time to time; I think content creators in general do. When you take a step back to look at your strengths and merge them with the things you love, blogging becomes fun again and easier.

    Not everyone is going to love your stuff no matter how great it is, the sooner we realise that, the quicker we'll stop trying to hard to be like others who seem popular and just be ourselves and enjoy interacting with those who do enjoy what we put out x
    La Sugarlace

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  17. Great post,but our blog is our temple x) but, we just need to be unique.

    Have a great day dear!
    xoxo
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  18. I think I have been affected by all those fears, especially the fear of losing audience :(. I think it's nice to write things down, it helps a lot! I'm glad I'm not the only one who feels like this at some point when blogging.

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  19. Thanks for sharing this amazing post! Made me think about blogging! Have an amazing day!
    xx
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  20. I reviewed myself in your post! The secret is to keep going and learn with what didn't work so well. I love blogging, it's a hudge part of my life!

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  21. beautiful blog! maybe we can follow each other?

    welcome :)

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  22. Enlightening post.. Incredibly enlightening. I think that sometimes the blogsophere becomes this encapsulating entity of compliments and comparisons.. Which is really not really why any of us started. I like that you bring to light some negative things about blogging, because ignoring these very real feelings does not do anyone any good. It shows that you are incredibly self aware and reflective. Thank you so much for sharing this. You are a very REAL woman :)

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  23. I totally feel like I am running out of ideas or like they aren't good enough for a post, and end up not posting forever because of it. I totally resonate with everything else you talked about as well! x

    tia-faye.blogspot.com

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  24. YES!!! I totally always feel like I am missing out on opportunities! There are just so many ways to put yourself out there on the web that I often feel like I am not doing enough or trying enough things to be introduced to a new audience! Great post Clara, glad I'm not the only one!
    xx Annie
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  25. Great post, I think we all feel like this at times but it's not healthy or useful for feeling creative!

    Amy - Four Cats Plus Us

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